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Re: Christianity is evil [Re: ncsutiger] #17498 - 06/16/02 05:48 AM Edit Reply Quote

Haha, NC, this is a second warning to watch out. Why should I? And for whom? For raising questions? For being critical? I'm for sure not a 'missionary' to change anybody. I'm not influencing a friend to become what I like him/her to be what I want. Your still defending your position or your point of view, and a neutral reader can see the insistence on your part flavoured with 'patience' for the longer term. That he's already of the same faith doesn't matter really. It's about the wish to mould someone according to one's own wishes. This urge may have faded a little (because it didn't work?), but it is still there, because you're 'helping him understand better' and 'looking forward to him becoming stronger'. Why? Isn't he strong enough? Or isn't he like you want him to be? You have mercy on him because he's graduating (sounds like a sacrifice out of love?), but afterwards he'll have no excuse to concentrate for you on what you want (him paying back for your patience and sacrifice)? I think it's wiser not to concentrate on me to watch out, NC. I'm a stranger. It's better for you to evaluate your insistence on 'helping' and 'looking forward' in such a way that your bf still can retain his personal space and time of thoughts after graduation. Try to think about the consequences and your adaptation to him when he wouldn't have time or simply doesn't want to be involved in religion or spirituality after his graduation (as much as you want).