Ishwa helper Reged: 03/03/02 Posts: 553

Re: Anger management and Hinduism. [Re: WiseForumFool] #15124 - 04/20/02 06:12 AM Edit Reply Quote

Dear VJR, This is my personal experience: In 1997 I got a car accident. I was almost dead for a split second, but that's another topic. I survived...with a whiplash. I was really knocked down. But I didn't give up, till the specialists told me to accept that what has happened, but work with the given posibilities and expand them slowly. Our Atman needs the body to function in the world. If that body is a little disabled, then the Atman will adjust to that and work with the highest possibilities under those circumstances and try to improve from within if possible. I accepted my condition, but worked with the possibilites left. Only accepting was in my case enough to get out of the not workable negativeness and look forward to workability. With this attitude my Atman could "open up" instead of closing doors. With this my physical Jiiva could give me the necessary energycurrents to move through my subtle and then to my physical body. Of course the equipment was then not first class, so the currents would be contained by second-handed subtle and physical tissues. But it worked and slowly I could improve my neckinjury. The possibilities multiplied. And after a year of determined but conscious Tapasya I had a workable situation with which i was content. I could function again as I wanted and I could do my job again as I wanted to. My neck is vulnerable, like my shoulders, and my vegetative nervous system, but I know when my body gives the signals (symtoms) to slow down before I will collapse. So, what one could do in any circumstance: 1. Accept what the conditions are for that moment. Don't argue or fight or ask too long for the why. 2. Work with the given circumstances. Concentrate on what is possible and not on what is impossible, otherwise frustration and anger will grow. 3. If possible, improve a little bit your limits. Actually it comes naturally, when the acceptance and the positive workability are realized. When there's any improvement, accept that again and work with it. Note: The person who has to accept a situation has another challenge. And that is the re-action of others. Accepting one's situation is the personal challenge, but accepting the social reaction is the other. People will act strange when you are not the same anymore as they wanted you to be. Deal with this too. Accept that not all can accept your new situation. But realize that it's not your responsibility, it's theirs. Every crisis had the following steps in simple words: 1. recognizing 2. accepting <-------------> denying 3. sort it out <--------------> put it aside 4. let it go <-----------------> lock it up 5. blank situation <--------> blocking feelings 6. new <--------------------> old, looping P.S. Doctors aren't perfect, so always ask for a second or third opinion with another doctor. Allopathy (modern medical science) and other pathy (AyurVeda or homeopathy, etc. ) may work together with believe (Hinduism or any other belief). Modern science can't handle everything, but other medical treatments don't have the checking procedures which modern science has. And belief can do some miracles, but has its limits too. But when the diagnosis is clear and not contradicting, then acceptance is one of the first things to be realized, before any treatment.